The Work We Do
Together.
You didn't come here because something's wrong with your strategy. You came here because something's shifting inside you. We offer three pathways—each for a different moment in your evolution.
Transition Coaching
"For leaders in crisis who don't know where else to turn."
You've built something great. You've won by every definition of success.
But now you're standing in a place you didn't expect: questioning everything. The identity that got you here feels like a costume that no longer fits. The ambition that drove you has gone quiet. Or a crisis—burnout, an exit, a dissolution, a major life change—has forced you to ask a question you've been avoiding: Is this actually my life?
You can feel the threshold. You just can't see the path forward.
This is where we work together.
We get underneath what's happening so you can stop white-knuckling the old identity and start discovering who you actually are. We use deep assessment (Enneagram, Human Design, psychological frameworks) to understand your patterns, create your personalized Book of You, and map your path forward.
Starts at $1,700/month
4-month minimum commitment. Most people continue longer because the work keeps deepening.
Conscious Leadership Coaching
For executives ready to lead from Big Self, not little self.
You've mastered the outer game. But you know you're still leading from ego, from survival patterns, from the compensatory strategies that got you here but won't take you where you want to go. You want to do shadow work, not to become "better," but to become whole.
This is consciousness work for leaders who refuse to lead the old way.
This work doesn't soften your authority, it amplifies it. You'll become the kind of leader who builds the new world, not just manages the old one.
Starts at $1,700/month
4-month minimum commitment. Most leaders work with me for 6-12 months as the transformation deepens.
The Enneagram for Teams
If you're looking for team transformation—not just individual evolution—we offer Enneagram experiences designed to help leadership teams understand their collective psychology and work together differently.
Explore Enneagram
What You Get
with Big Self School
Every pathway includes powerful resources designed to support your growth between sessions and beyond. We don't just talk; we build a system for your evolution.
Your Book of You
Over 2-4 deep interviews, we reconstruct your story—not to blame it, but to understand it completely. How you learned to move through the world. What your nervous system decided was valuable. What patterns you're running without knowing it. What protective structures you built. What's actually true about you underneath all the armor.
From this, we create your Book of You. This is a living document that becomes your personalized curriculum for growth. We use the Enneagram, Human Design, IFS, Analytic Psychology, and Developmental Psychology diagnostically to construct your exact path for transformation.
Your Book of You becomes your reference for the rest of your life. You'll return to it many times. And each time you read it, you're different, so you see something new in it.
Emma: Your AI Support
Emma is a custom GPT trained on your Book of You. She's available 24/7 between sessions. She knows your story. Your specific pattern. Your growth edge. Your current work. Everything you're processing through daily practice.
Daily, she guides you through your specific practices. She asks questions that deepen what you're discovering. She helps you identify when your pattern is activating. She supports you when you're stuck.
She doesn't replace us. She extends us. When you come to sessions, we already know what's been happening. Emma has tracked it all and prepared detailed reports on what's shifting. So we don't start from scratch. We go deep immediately.
For teams: Each team member gets their own confidential relationship with Emma, who helps them navigate conflicts and work more effectively.
Coaching Sessions
These are where you bring what's alive in you. What's shifting. Where you're stuck. What you're discovering in real time.
We bring clinical depth and the ability to see what you can't see from inside your own system. We bring witness for the hard parts. We bring the questions that change everything.
Some sessions are clear and sharp and you leave with immediate understanding. Others unfold slowly. Something breaks through—a realization, a choice that's been waiting underneath.
Most people meet bi-monthly. Sometimes weekly. Sometimes monthly. We figure out what rhythm actually serves you.
My Approach
We integrate executive coaching, therapeutic inquiry, and soul work, anchored in clinical depth and real understanding of how people actually transform.
We've trained for over twenty years in the psychological and spiritual dimensions of change: clinical and counseling psychology, IFS, Somatic Experiencing, the Enneagram, Human Design, and Archetypal Psychology. We combine modern psychology with intuitive wisdom to do the messy work of transformation.
But there's no fixed playbook. The method follows what's emerging in you. The direction we take depends on where you are, what's calling you, and what you're actually ready for.
Start with Self
Everything flows from understanding who you actually are. Not who you think you should be. Not who you've been performing as. The actual person beneath the role.
Radical Responsibility
You're not a victim of your circumstances. You've organized your life the way you have for reasons that made sense at the time. Understanding that is liberating.
The Truth
Not your truth. Not my truth. The actual truth. There's a spacious place inside you already oriented toward reality, toward wisdom.
Deeply Emotional With Truth-Telling Edges
We'll meet you in the tender places. And we'll tell you what we see, even when it's uncomfortable. Our commitment is to your transformation, not your comfort.
Psychospiritual Work
Psychology and spirituality aren't separate. The psyche is the soul. The soul is the psyche. We work in both domains simultaneously.
Slowed Down
We ask you to find quiet places for reflection. To prioritize contemplation. This isn't the path of quick fixes. It's the path of real change.
"Working with Shelley was incredibly helpful for me to start to build that confidence and set goals."
I was starting to just get incredibly overwhelmed with being the sole leader within my company. I felt stuck, like I had gotten to a point where I was only working through these thoughts with myself.
The Enneagram work was probably one of the most powerful things, it gave me a basis for understanding why I operate the way that I do. It helped me understand the DNA of my team and the DNA of the team I want to build. Having the tools in place was what I needed to feel like I could move forward and get unstuck.
Ready to begin?
This work isn't for everyone. It requires honesty, time, and a willingness to face what you've been avoiding. But if you're done optimizing and ready to evolve, let's talk.
Common Questions
Leaders who've built something significant and are curious about themselves at a deeper level. You show up and do your own work between sessions. You're willing to look at yourself honestly. You know self-awareness matters as much as execution, and you're open to the idea that psychology and inner work are foundational.
Each session, we check in on what's alive since we last met, then we ask: What do you need to explore today? The conversation moves based on what's surfacing. We offer perspective and frameworks, but the real insight is what you discover. We close with what you're taking with you and what you'll practice before we meet again. Between sessions, you get detailed notes from each session with invitations for exploration. Most clients spend a few hours each week journaling, meditating, and noticing patterns. You can reach out anytime something meaningful surfaces. The work doesn't stop when our call ends.
Twice a month for an hour typically works best. But it's flexible based on where you are. Between sessions, we're genuinely available—you can text, send a voice memo, or email. We respond within 24 hours. We ask for an initial commitment of four months.
We see the pattern you can't see and name it clearly. We won't let you hide behind intelligence—when you intellectualize, we lovingly call you back to your soul's knowing. We work on the root cause, not the symptoms. We prioritize your growth over your success. And we've lived the ordeal ourselves—we're not theorizing.
No. We follow what's actually happening in you. We draw from 20+ years of clinical training, Enneagram, Human Design, Internal Family Systems, Psychoanalytic Psychology and lived experience. The work is customized to your psychology, not a predetermined framework.
We create a custom GPT trained on your specific psychology and our methods. It's available anytime between sessions to help with your patterns, decisions, and conversations. Send us a weekly synopsis so we can track patterns together. With a wearable AI recorder, we get even deeper pattern recognition. You can use it as a daily journal. It will help you notice patterns, clarify your thinking, and practice new approaches between sessions. It's extremely valuable for pattern recognition and tracking progress that may not always be apparent to you.
We work on a monthly retainer (ranging between $1,700 - $2,500) rather than a per-session fee. We use a sliding scale based on your financial reality. We ask for a four-month minimum commitment. We figure out what feels like a real investment without creating stress in your life.
Yes. Your company can sponsor you. We even have a guide you can use to persuade your boss to invest in your coaching.
Yes. You can pause, adjust, or stop whenever it makes sense. No penalty. We'll be honest if we think stopping is premature or if we're in the middle of important work. But the choice is yours.
Probably. We've worked with executives navigating exits, burnout, partnership dissolution, family business chaos, transitions, board conflicts, identity crises. Most executive crises are variations on the same psychological themes. If your situation is genuinely outside our wheelhouse, we'll tell you.